A midlife crisis can hit us like a brick or it can creep up on us. However it happens, when it happens, your world can turn upside down. You can go from feeling super confident and on top of the world, to feeling washed out and over the hill. You may notice that your sleep is affected, your relationships suffer and you may become more dependent on social and recreational stimulants.
Understanding how you got into this perceived crisis is useful for understanding how to deal with it.
You will have lived to a greater or lesser degree, adapting your persona to fit in with certain expectations of others. Parenthood, employability, decision making, financial and social status, all contribute to you creating your outward facing 'self'. This adaptability comes under the spotlight as you start to question whether this is who you really are, and whether this aligns with how you really feel deep inside.
"One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else." KL Toth
We have all heard people say things like, "She's acting like a teenager!" or "I thought he liked his life as it was, he's taken leave of his senses!" Of course not everyone behaves in the same way, but you get the idea? We can appear to derail when we start to challenge and reject our societal and cultural demands.
All that is really happening is an awakening desire to explore new external sources in an attempt to create a new way forward. These external sources aren't aways reliable though and quite often the outcome isn't what was intended. Your new persona can be vulnerable and open for being exploited.
So, you're feeling that you want to change somethings in your life, but aren't sure how?
How to fix your midlife crisis fast!
it is useful to change the language around what is happening to you. Calling it a crisis is guaranteed to bring you down! Change the wording to your mid point evaluation or audit. This immediately implies that you have a job to do which can bring huge benefits. This job can actually be done in one day, just one Breakthrough Day!
First we explore what you are actually feeling deep inside. This gives a clear view of what your values are and how you want to satisfy them. We look at what is present or absent when you are feeling your best and your worst.
Next, we look back along your time line to ditch all of the negative stuff clogging up your mind. There is nothing quite so liberating as tackling and eliminating all of your unwarranted and unwanted limiting beliefs! Sometimes, it will bring you peace to heal any childhood traumas at this stage too.
Lastly we create together your true persona, the persona you truly feel and believe is you.
"Who looks outside, dreams, who looks inside awakes" Carl Jung
If you'd like to learn how to fix your midlife crisis fast, get in touch. Imagine sorting out your life to date and your future in just one day!
*A good coach will always help you to consider the ecology of your choices, ie the impact on you and the significant people in your life.
Jules x