You have been invited to a summer party, a wedding or you’re planning a holiday. Before you make your next move, the social anxiety kicks in. Your mind is whirring with so many reasons why you shouldn’t accept the invitation or buy your travel ticket.
- “If I could lose weight............”
- “If I had something decent to wear...........”
- “If I looked younger……………..”
- “I hate my hair……………..”
- “Everyone else will look amazing………...”
The Hidden Pain Behind The Quick Fix
It’s no surprise that rapid diets and anti-ageing makeovers are everywhere. There has been a surge in weight loss injections too. IQVIA (a global health research company) reported that over 1.5 million people in the UK are using weight loss injections.
The common denominator in any of these ’solutions’ is one very compelling ingredient and that is, emotional relief.
So what lies behind the impulse to crash diet or need to lash out on expensive makeover products?
- A fear of being judged
- A memory of feeling invisible
- A belief that you are not enough
For mature women, this isn’t new. This feeling left out, being criticised and compared, began a long time ago. These internal whispers are rooted in a culture that has brainwashed us women, especially in midlife and beyond, to believe that fixing the outside will, somehow, fix the inside. As we age, the body changes, roles change, and sometimes we simply fade away and disappear.
The Quick Fix Makeover Culture Exploits Our Vulnerability & Why It Feels So Darned Good At First
Tapping into this can be uncomfortable, yet it's something which can change the course of your life, not just the next social engagement.
Let’s be honest. That before and after ‘high’ is real.
- You’re receiving compliments.
- You feel like you belong again.
- You feel like you’re back in control
- You believe that you’ve got it right this time!
So what happens when the diet becomes hard to maintain, the make-up fades, and the compliments slow or stop?
Here’s the thing. If your inner voice is saying, “You’re still not good enough.” No amount of quick fix will silence it.
So, How Do You Create Real, Sustainable, Lasting Change?
"Mostly what I have learned about aging, despite the creakiness of one's bones and cragginess of one’s once silken skin, is this. Do it, by all means do it!” Maya Angelou
When you change how you think, you will change what you do. As willpower fades, which it inevitably will, a fresh new mindset will reveal the old self-conscious patterns that drive self-doubt and fear. I practice NLP (neuro linguistic programming) to ditch unhelpful sabotage thinking and replace it with empowering beliefs.
Is this possibly the best change you could ever make? It would be quite the perfect gift from you to yourself to be able to make changes which will take you confidently through the rest of your life.
Here are just a few of the changes you could make.
- Rewire your inner voice with tools
- Face old emotional wounds with compassion, not criticism
- Reclaim visibility
- Let go of ‘perfect’
- Choose self-trust over surface-level fixing
There is nothing wrong with wanting to look great, and with NLP, you’re not just changing what you do, you’re changing who you believe yourself to be.
Now that’s powerful, isn't it?
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